May
07

Your Declutter Helper

That would be me.

In the coming posts and pages I am going to tell you everything you need to know about decluttering.  I’ll give you case histories and tips and encouragement.  And if you have any questions I’d love to hear them.  I’ll give you the answer in a post so that everyone else can benefit too.

Have a cuppa while you read this.

Before you start to navigate around this site looking for specifics, sit down with a cup of tea or coffee and ask yourself why you want to declutter your home or room or office.  Why does it matter? you ask.  Well, your motive for decluttering will give you an idea of how deep you want to go into this adventure.

For instance if you just want to declutter the dining room table because you are having visitors then really all you need to do is gather everything up and stash it somewhere else until they have gone, then bring it all out again.  Duh! you say, I knew that.  Yes, you did.  You could however take it one step further and use this opportunity to declutter the table as you go.  So, rather than gathering it all up you could take a few minutes to sort.  Yup, a few minutes is all it takes.

Make piles.  Throw out.  Deal with now.  Deal with later.  Read. Pass on to someone else.  Kids.  Work. Shoppjng – you get the idea.  Use sticky notes to label each pile and then put them in another room to bring out later and finish dealing with.

If you do this before you stash your clutter somewhere else for the moment, you will feel in control and be that much more ready to tidy it up when you bring it out again.

Anyway, back to the why.  If you are decluttering because you are moving house, that’s a big deal.  If you are decluttering the kids rooms because they are growing up and could get rid of some toys and clothes, that could be traumatic.  If you are decluttering because you are starting a business on ebay, that’s a different kettle of fish altogether.  So, work out why.

Time Frame

Then it would be good to have a time frame.  When do you want it done by?  How much time can you spend on it?  Who will help you?  Who will hinder you?  What days can you spend on it?  Every day, every second day, Saturday only?  What surrounds you time wise?  Are you having a kids birthday party next week?  do you have a big deal coming up at work?  A holiday?  All these things can derail your decluttering because, I have to tell you right now, decluttering is not easy; it’s not for the faint hearted.

I am going to do my damndest to  help you.  The book I have written tells you step by step what to do.  But you still have to put in the energy and the commitment.  You have to have the staying power and the discipline to keep going when you really want to stop.

So, hang on for the ride!

If you’d like to cut straight to decluttering and read all about it in one hit you can buy my book.  Here is the link:

Oct
04

Decluttering – a case study.

I love decluttering.  There is something so satisfying about tidying up and organising.  I’m not sure what that says about me as a person but I hope it’s all good.

What is even more satisfying though is hearing people’s comments after the decluttering has really sunk in.

For instance, one job I did for a woman (Maggie) who lived a long way away from where I live.  I travelled for over an hour to get to her place and when I got there she wasn’t home!  She had left a note on the door that she had to go shopping!  (I had rung the night before to confirm so she knew I was coming.)  But I waited!

When she got home she then said that it was too late to start and I should go home.  Naturally I resisted.  This was also my income she was messing with.

So we began.  Never has so much stuff been crammed into such a small space.  Inside a very deep built-in cupboard, under a huge desk, on and over a bookshelf, on the floor, in the corners.  It was mostly paper from a lifetime of being a social worker and client notes, newspaper cuttings, and jottings for a book.

Amongst all this however was also a lot of rubbish.  Old leaflets, takeaway menus, questionnaires, newspapers, magazines, letters, bills, you name it.

So we started systematically sorting.  I couldn’t throw out anything because I didn’t know what was rubbish (except the really obvious stuff) and what wasn’t.  So I made piles and she sorted through things.  When we had cleared a drawer in the filing cabinet, we were able to start filing stuff from the piles.  This all took a really long time and was quite painful for her.

We finally got through the paper (about 4 hours) and then we started on the cupboard.  I couldn’t believe the stuff in there – it was a bit like the endless wardrobe in The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe – more and more and more stuff just kept coming out.  What was in there?  Not paper as you might expect.  Clothes!  Bags and bags of clothes and some suitcases full of clothes too.  But … they weren’t her clothes!  They were plastic bags full of clothes that had been given to her by friends.  She had stuck them in the wardrobe and forgotten about them!  Now they were old and mildewy and smelly.

The suitcases were full of clothes from her dead father, which had been given to her sister (who was obsessive compulsive and for whom I also worked for a couple of days) who had given them to her.  Oh my lord!

Anyway, we cleared them all out and kept a very few things only.  Along the way we also found a few boxes of her daughter’s stuff which the daughter had shoved into this endless cupboard because she didn’t want it in her room any longer!

So we sorted and sorted.  The daughter got her own stuff back to sort our herself.  The clothing went into the op shop pile or the rubbish or the wash.

All that activity and the room still looked dark and overcrowded (we were about 7 hours in by now) and we were both exhausted.  But I can’t stop until it’s done, so I looked around and wondered what else had to go.

Aha!  The curtains.  There were three sets of treatments on the windows – venetian blinds, sheer curtains and dark blue printed gathered curtains.  Well they had to go!  So I took down the blue curtains and the sheer curtains.  We instantly felt as though we had gained a few more feet of space (although in fact it was negligible).

In case you’re wondering about privacy – the room was used as an office and it faced the back yard.  The windows were covered on the outside by a huge tree and the venetians would give it privacy at night.

When we finally finished Maggie was beside herself with exhaustion and in tears.  I was worried about her because she seemed so upset and kept chastising herself for being so disorganised and “weak” and for keeping all this stuff and being unable to keep her house (read “life”) straight.  I couldn’t stay with her though because I’d promised to be somewhere else that night – otherwise I would have tried to comfort her more.

I rang Maggie the next morning, fully expecting to hear that she had attempted to do something dreadful to herself (yes, she really was that upset).

Imagine my delight when she said to me “Oh I can’t tell you how wonderful it felt to go into that room this morning.  It was full of light and I could actually see my desk top and my computer! I know all my files are straight so I can find things easily.  I can get on and write my book now.”

That’s what I find so satisfying – knowing that people can get on with the next phase of their lives now.

If I can help you, leave a comment and I’ll get back to you.  I’d love to hear your questions.

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Aug
27

Decluttering by Mother Nature

I’ve written about this before and although it wasn’t funny at the time, it amuses me now.  I’m talking about the January floods here in Queensland, and I’m talking about a purely personal perspective.  The floods were a tragedy for many, but they weren’t for me

I saved quite a lot of stuff because I knew the floods were coming and so had time to get out my most valuable things (in terms of replacement rather than cost).  Things like the tv, my computer, my camera, my birth certificate, bank records – things like that.

I didn’t get out my books, which in terms of value were minimal – but gosh I miss them.  Not just any old books, but books that I had collected over the years.  Reference books for the garden, for interior design, books by my favourite authors that I read over and over again.  I am slowly replacing them and having fun doing so, but some of them are irreplaceable.

The lesson for me as a declutterer is that there is nothing you can’t live without.  Many things I’m sure I still haven’t missed.  Some things I know are gone, but I haven’t missed them.  I realise I had them only because I didn’t know what else to do with them.  I wasn’t quite ready to “let them go”.  But when Mother Nature took them away, well, that was ok.  And I’m ok.

My point is that even if you let something go that you later miss, it isn’t so terrible.  You can either have fun replacing it by searching for it in op. shops, on ebay or waiting for friends and family to give you a new one as a gift or you can say “I’m glad I had it in my life, I miss it, but it’s gone”.  You can of course also become consumed by remorse and regret, but why would you?

Some people would tell me “I can’t help missing those things” but at this point in my life I know you can help it.  We choose to miss things by not working on that issue, we choose remorse and regret by not working on those emotions.  Tough I know, but that’s what I have learned.  I have a choice in everything.

And just to bring it back to decluttering, we have a choice.  To stay cluttered and overwhelmed or to step up and find a way to clarity and decluttering.

You don’t have to find the way all by yourself though.  Have a look at my book.  I guarantee it’ll help you.  All you have to do is provide the time and the will power and follow the instructions.

Oh yes, the good news about Mother Nature’s decluttering of my house in January is that I have a new kitchen courtesy of the Premier’s Disaster Relief Fund and all the wonderful people who donated to that fund.  Thank you to you all.

I loved my old kitchen, but this one is better.  Better design and layout and way more bench and cupboard space.  I’m having glass splashbacks made so I have to wait a couple of weeks for it to be finished, but here’s a sneak preview.

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Aug
11

Can Decluttering Help You Lose Weight?

At the risk of drawing a rather long bow I think decluttering can help you lose weight.  Just not in quite the way you thought!

First of all though, there is a school of thought that excess weight is a way of protecting yourself from being hurt.  It can also be a way of “threatening” the people in your life who are threatening you – because you are bigger than they are.

Part of the same school says another reason for weight gain and retention is that you are afraid, or at least reluctant, to “let go” of old ideas and values and ways of doing things.  If you think this is you, you would be the sort of person who can’t throw anything out “just in case” you might need it.  Or you might simply not be able to “let go” of old clothes, ornaments, books, magazines, jewellery because you can’t bear for anything to leave your life.

Both of these ideas are worth examining for yourself.

But here’s another, rather “arm’s length” reason that decluttering might help you to lose weight.

Have a look at your kitchen, including your pantry.  Is it conducive to cooking? Is your pantry organised, clean and useful?  Or is it hard to find anything in there?  Weevils infest things, cockroaches lurk, ants carry things away?  Hardly a place from which you want to take ingredients that make a meal you are going to eat (shudder).

Are your benches old and worn out looking, scratched and stained?  Not really appetising to prepare food on.

Are your benches cluttered with papers, rubber bands, homework, mail, plates, bits of food you don’t quite know how to store, the toaster, the coffee maker, the kettle so that there is a small island amidst the chaos to prepare your food in?

If your kitchen is a bit of a disaster then it might just be making you fat.  And it certainly isn’t helping you to lose weight.

How can it make me fat? you ask.  Well, I’m thinking about the alternative to cooking in your kitchen.  It is either take away food or snack food.  Neither type of “food” will help you lose weight.  Unless of course your snack food is fruit and raw vegies – but it never is, is it?

So, do clean up your kitchen, including your pantry.  “A clutter free workspace promotes a calmer, more enjoyable cooking atmosphere” says one of my favourite magazines “Alive” – available free from your health food shop.

If you are calm in the kitchen, if you are enjoying your space then you will spend time cooking.  and if you cook your own food, you are bound to lose weight.  And if you clean up as you go, you will leave the kitchen clean for tomorrow so that you can cook again.  And lose more weight.

So,what do you think, can decluttering help you lose weight?  I think so (grin).

My book will help you lose weight!

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Jul
28

Shoes, shoes, shoes and how to declutter them!

Decluttering your shoes (and maybe your earrings too)


What is it about shoes?  Why do so many women love them?  I can’t answer that question either, but I am one of the women who loves them.  I have a weakness for earrings too.  I only wear clip ons so finding ones that I like is a challenge because the makers of clip ons think that only very dowdy women wear them, so they only make very dowdy styles.  Consequently, I comb op shops for suitable styles – and I often find them.  Which means that my earring drawers (3!) are always cluttered.  And I have a lot of broken ones and single ones – but I can’t let go of any of them.

The good news of course is that it is easy to store earrings, they don’t take up much room.  But that’s not the case with shoes, is it?  Shoes do take up a lot of room.  And they’re hard to keep tidy, especially if they’re just sitting on the bottom of your wardrobe.

Save space – How many pairs of shoes do you need?

Well, what a silly question!  I need as many as I can get!

But if you want to declutter your shoes you do have to make some decisions.

You could make decisions based on need, age, use, storage space available, what your partner needs/wants.  Or you just might be Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City and have uncountable pairs!

OK, so what do you need your shoes for?

  •  Work, walking, gym, hobbies (like riding or hiking), partying …. ?
  • Are your shoes very old?  As in worn out, out of date, no longer do the hobby? Or just plain old fashioned?
  • Do you have the space for all these shoes?  Does your partner complain about the amount of space your shoes take?
  • Do you still do the activity you got them for?  Do you still ride, for example?  Might be time to sell them and cash in!

The categories above are intended to give you some jumping off points to think about your shoes and how to go about decluttering them.

Pick up a pair of shoes and ask yourself questions like:

  • Do I still wear these shoes?
  • Will I ever wear them again?
  • Should I ever wear them again? (depending on the condition of the shoes you might say “I’d like to wear them again, but really, they are too daggy”)
  • When was the last time I wore them?

Then take a good, long, critical look at them at.

  • Are they scuffed?
  • Do they need to be repaired?
  • Do they smell bad?

I don’t think you need me to tell you how to interpret the answers and what actions to take!

If you are fashion conscious – which you probably are or you wouldn’t have that many pairs of shoes – you will know how shoes can ruin an outfit.  Dirty scuffed shoes with really worn down heels will spoil any dress, no matter how expensive or gorgeous.

The three most important things in fashion are good shoes, good bag and good haircut.  If you’ve got those you can make anything look good!  But I think I’m getting off the point – sorry.

If you can weed out your shoes using the above criteria hopefully you will get them down to a manageable number.  But then what?  How can you keep them tidy and not tangled up or lost in some other part of the wardrobe?

My personal preference is to have a shoe rack by the back door.  I just can’t quite bring myself to put my shoes in the wardrobe.  First of all, your feet sweat – which is why they smell.  Secondly – if you’re walking around the streets you have no idea what you’ve stepped in – and whatever it was, it’s not going in with my clean clothes!  And finally – I prefer to be able to see all my shoes so that I can easily choose what to wear.  I don’t want to dive around in the bottom of the wardrobe searching for one lost shoe.

If keeping shoes on a rack is not an option you could buy those transparent plastic storage boxes

and stack them – saves space and gives good visibility.

Or, you could get those hanging things that shoes slot into.  Also saves space and gives good visibility.

What about the shoes that you don’t wear and can’t bear to part with?

Put them into shoe boxes – the ones from your most recent purchases and either glue a photo on the end of the box or write a short description.  That way you won’t open those boxes every other month wondering what’s in them.  You can stack the boxes in the spare room or the garage – but ideally you would simply recycle them.

My neighbour recycles shoes by filling them with earth and growing cactuses in them. Eccentric.

I do go into decluttering shoes in a bit more detail in my book.

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Jul
18

Are you always late in the mornings?

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Decluttering is not just about keeping the house tidy for the sake of it.  Decluttering can help:

  • keep you calm in the morning,
  • get you to work on time,
  • avoid fights with your spouse,
  • get the children out of the house on time – without having to find lost homework or permission notes before you can get in the car.

Too good to be true?  Well, yes it is, in a way.  Because no matter how good your organisation solutions are, if you don’t use them, they won’t work!

Assuming though that you really are committed to the above list and are willing to do what it takes, here’s how.

Can’t find keys/wallet/glasses/mobile – every morning!

A tray or basket placed on the bedside table to hold all those objects.  That way, when trouser pockets are emptied there’s a place to put it all.  Especially the loose change which scratches the polished finish on furniture.

No more rushing about asking “have you seen my wallet?”, “have you seen my keys?”, “where are my glasses?”

No more answers of: “Hurry up, you’ll miss the train.”  “Hurry up, I have to leave NOW to avoid the traffic!”  Peace reigns!

Can’t find keys.

If the car keys are shared by members of the household, put a key rack near the most-used door.  The rule is that as you come in you hang the keys on the rack, or put them in the bowl or basket near the door.  ALWAYS do this.  Make it a habit.

No more shouts of “but you had them last, where did you put them?”  and “why do you ALWAYS put them down somewhere?” Peace reigns!

Children running about looking for homework or permission notes.

Do you fight with the kids in the mornings because they’ve lost their homework or they haven’t asked you to sign their permission notes, or report, or whatever …..?

Assuming you have a routine for homework here’s an idea.

Have a different colour plastic filing tray for each child – you know, the sort that stack up on top of each other.

Keep it in the pantry if you don’t have kitchen bench space.

When homework is done, it’s put in the tray.

When permission notes are signed, they’re put in the tray.  And so on.

In fact anything to do with your child’s activities can be put in that tray.  Then you’ll always know where to look first.

Unfortunately there is something YOU have to do here.  And that’s commit to the system.  Unless you commit to the system and “police” the rest of the family until it becomes a habit it won’t work.  In fact, trays and racks will just contribute to the clutter.  There’s always a catch isn’t there?

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Jul
07

How to Declutter While Moving House

I was asked an excellent question today.  It was “Am moving to a new home soon, and I want to avoid cluttering…what should I do?”  What a great opportunity to declutter – when you are moving.

My method:

Think about what you will need immediately you arrive in your new home.

Kitchen gear like saucepans and cutlery and kitchen tools.

Plates and mugs

Basic pantry items like tea, coffee, rice, sugar, tins of food.

Put that into boxes and clearly mark them “kitchen, essential items”.  That way the movers will know exactly where to put things.

Do the same for bathroom, laundry and linen things.

Do the same for the lounge room – cd’s, magazines, ornaments.  What can’t you live without?  The tv remote certainly.

Lastly, do your wardrobe.  What essential items must you have in the first week(s) of living in your new place?  Pack as though are going for the week.  Everything else goes in other boxes.

All essential boxes should be marked “essential” and the room they are to go in.

The rest of your goodies can be packed in boxes and marked with the types of items in them e.g. “plastics cupboard”, “summer clothes”, “kids toys” and then stash them in the garage.

Now when you move in to your new home, you’ll have all the essentials and none of the clutter.  You’ll be comfortable in your new home without having to unpack every last box. And best of all you can sort through your things when you have the time or the inclination.  You never know, you might even find that you can do without almost everything in those boxes!

In my book, I give you the way to move things along (declutter that is) without pain!  You can see a sample of my book if you like!

Or click on the image tobuy the book straight away.

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Jun
27

Decluttering your summer (or winter) clothes

When the seasons change, we wear different clothes -  and that’s a good time to declutter your wardrobe.

Winter is well and truly here.  Even in Queensland it’s cold and we’ve been having some alarmingly grey and depressing days.  I’m used to the weather here being “Beautiful one day, perfect the next” as the tourist ads used to say.  Not so this year.

All this is by way of saying that I’ve never bothered to put my summer clothes away because I would wear them even during winter – perhaps with a cardigan or long sleeved blouse to keep me warm.

Not this year though.

Which is what has made me think about your summer wardrobe.  If you’re on the other side of the world from Australia and therefore have your seasons back to front (grin) you can just substitute the word “winter” for “summer”.

If you have a large enough wardrobe you don’t really need to put your clothes into bags or boxes but for this exercise it would be good to at least separate your summer clothes from all the rest.  The line between winter and summer is not black and white I know (at least in most of Australia).  But for now, put all your definitely-summer-clothes at one end of your wardrobe.  All the in-between clothes – like a short sleeved shirt for a warm winter day – in between.  You get the idea.

Have a look at those summer dresses, skirts and blouses – one by one.

  • Anything stained – out.
  • Anything beyond repair – out.
  • Anything you know you’ll never get round to repairing – out. (be honest)
  • Anything that you WILL repair – on the bed.
  • Anything you’re not happy wearing – out.
  • Anything that belongs to some-one else – on the bed.
  • Anything that you don’t want but is still good – on the bed.
  • Anything that you can’t wear – for whatever reason – but you really really love – on the bed.
  • Anything that doesn’t fit – too big or too small – out.
  • Anything that needs dry cleaning or washing – on the bed.  ** Please don’t leave soiled clothes in the wardrobe, the oil from your skin will turn rancid over time and stain your clothes – usually around the neck.  And there’s that unwashed clothes smell which develops over time – you really don’t want that.  That goes for perfume too.  Stale perfume on clothes smells dreadful.

Hopefully this will have made some space in your wardrobe – ready for next season’s new clothes when you get round to buying them.

Now for the piles on the bed.

You’ll need some bags or boxes for this.

  • Anything really past it – old fashioned, smelly, wrong size, in disrepair – but in a rag bag/box.
  • Anything you want to give away, put in a bag or box – one for op shops (goodwill), one for resale, one to give to a friend.
  • Anything for the washing machine – out to the laundry straight away.
  • Anything for the dry cleaners – in a bag and straight into the car or stash near the door so you won’t forget to take it next you go out.
  • Anything for repair – straight into the mending basket or into a bag or box to take to the person who will repair it and into the car or by the door.
  • Anything that you can’t wear but can’t bear to part with – into a plastic see through tub, bag or box (provided it’s also clean).

That’s really all there is to it.  A little courage, a little discipline, a little time and you’re done.  This shouldn’t take more than about 2 hours and if you do it with a friend it will be fun.

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May
17

The Mystery Drawer!

Every house has at least one of these.  Some times there’s one in every room, but at the very least there is one in the kitchen.  I’m going to tell you how to declutter it so that everything has a place and can be easily found.

The good thing about the mystery drawer is that at least you know where to look when you’re looking for something that you wouldn’t find anywhere else – something like a rubber band, a drawing pin, the top off an old salt shaker and so on.

If you have an imaginative “fixer” in your house you will find that s/he will find enough goodies in that drawer to build a tardis, or at least to fix your iron long enough to iron something for work tomorrow.

The bad thing about these drawers is their gradual disintegration to, or total immersion in, chaos.

The good news is that order can be restored, and it really isn’t that hard – after all, it’s just a little old drawer isn’t it?

So, begin by tipping the whole lot out onto the kitchen table and wiping out the drawer.  Re-line it if that’s what you do at your house.

Now begin sorting into piles and of course throwing things out as you go.  What will you throw out? Perished rubber bands first – every drawer has them.  Then rusty nails, rusty drawing pins, rusty paper clips, broken pieces of plastic, old, hard erasers, pencil stubs, fluff, old corks.

The rest?  You’re going to sort them into categories.  Rubber bands, string (it’s coming back into fashion), tap washers, working pens and pencils, unidentified but obviously unbroken plastic bits and so on.

Some of these things can go off to their proper homes – like the pencils for instance, I’m sure you have a place you keep pencils and pens – if not, here’s your chance to get one – a glass will do for now.  Tap washers belong in the workshop if you have one, if not put them in a jar or a plastic container with a lid but use something that’s transparent.

Same again for nails, pins, allen keys, paper clips, drawing pins.  If you must keep them in the mystery drawer at least make sure they are easily findable and not potentially lethal by keeping them in a container.

If this drawer also contains salad servers, odd forks, a hammer, a screw driver and so on, please sort them out now.  If the salad servers are in the mystery drawer they are probably broken or unloved – move them on and out of the house.  Hammer and so on can stay there provided they are not dangerous to anyone.  But they are best in a safe place high up, or even better in the garage.

Ideas for transparent containers

  • Rectangular fast food containers.
  • Small round food containers
  • Small squarish plastic honey jars
  • Bought plastic containers

There are always some odd things that don’t have a category or a home but there shouldn’t be many.  You can give them a container of their own – mine contains a lighter, a candle stub, a peg, a cork (for emergencies you understand) and a small bulldog clip.

Tomorrow I’ll talk about the mystery drawers in the kids’ rooms.

PS If you’d prefer to get straight into decluttering and read it all in one hit, you can buy a copy of my book.

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